Peace begins with the parent. We commit to understanding and regulating our own emotions. The child is not responsible for our emotions, we are.
Children are inherently good and do not need fixing.
It’s about loving our kids for who they are and not wanting them to be different. It is about acceptance, full stop.
There is a deep sense of trust that they will develop at their own pace and in their own way. Providing opportunities for development rather than pushing for progress yields healthier children.
We only provide gentle guidance, they do the rest. Our children will become who they are meant to become if we give them the support and freedom to do so.
Children are natural learners. They are intensely curious, and will gravitate toward their own interests. We embrace the curiosity and provide them with opportunities to experiment, learn and play.
Peaceful parents see children as equals, with equal rights, deserving of the same respect. Little does not mean less important or of lesser value.
We help our children become emotionally intelligent, able to identify, feel and communicate their full spectrum of emotions. Sadness and anger are just as acceptable as happiness.
We empower our children to trust themselves, to have a strong voice and to be confident. We do this by listening intently, honouring feelings, involving our children in decision making, and respecting the choices of our children.
Trust forms the bedrock of the parent-child relationship. When we ask for our children to listen to us, we lean on a strong relationship and do not use physical force, manipulation, or threats. Honesty and transparency are key in building trust.
We set limits and boundaries that are fair, consistent and rooted in the best interest of the child and family. We involve the child in the creation of family expectations.
How we communicate with our children matters. The words and tone we use communicates to our children how we feel about them. We speak to children with the same deference we would for a respected adult.
Peaceful parenting uses appreciation instead of praise.
Our children know that we are not perfect. We fail, we make mistakes and we try again.
If we make a mistake, if we hurt our children, we sincerely apologize and repair the broken trust.
We teach by what we do and by who we are. Actions speak louder than words. Everyday are children are watching, everyday we are modelling behaviour to be learned.
Challenging behaviour is about problem solving and finding solutions. We assume the best of our children and as a result try to help them through difficult times.
It is collaborative not combative. We give options and are flexible. Peaceful parents look for win-win situations.
Becoming aware of our children’s needs and helping them meet their needs, our children will feel calmer and more understood.
The child’s behaviour is a form of communication. Challenging behaviour often points to an unmet need. If we are curious and patient, we can help our children in a constructive way.
Peaceful parents help children develop and internal sense of right and wrong based on love, empathy and compassion.
There is no substitute for quality time. We aim for regular, uninterrupted time where we are fully present.
We are introspective and self reflective. We commit to life long learning, from other parents and from our children.
It’s about taking care of ourselves as parents and our needs, so that we can best be there for our kids, in a present and loving way. We simplify our lives, and place importance on what matters.